Will We Ever Understand Bebes?

December 19, 2008 at 12:38 pm (body language, couples, dating, kenya, love, women) (buzz, couples, daily nation, eastandard, insight, kenya, love, mantalk, pulse, zuqka)

Most guys will never be great with women because they don’t truly want it.  Just like everybody says they want to be rich.  But how many people will actually pick up a book on how to make money?  Or go out of their way to study people who are rich?

Not many.

You have to want it… whatever it is.

Many guys look for lines and techniques because that is what everyone else is teaching.

These are the guys looking for a quick fix.  They don’t really want it.

You have to want it.

Many guys have an emptiness inside of them, and they believe that if they can get women into their lives, that void will be filled.

But that’s not what it’s all about.  It’s about becoming the best man you can be… the most sexually confident man you can be.  This is what attracts women naturally.  You have to fill the void first yourself, then women will flow into your life.  Women cannot fill the void for you.

There is no way around this.  In order to attract the women you want into your life, there are no “techniques”.

You must be real and true to yourself… AND you must be real and true to women… meaning that it’s time to stop changing what you say and change who you ARE instead.

Learning tricks and lines may provide an instant gratification.  Some of it may work… but only temporarily.

Because the void will still be there.

Let’s go back to the example of people who want to be rich.  In order to make money, you need to put in the effort required to learn how it’s done.  You may need to reinvent yourself as a person to achieve this goal.  If you’ve been hanging around drugs your entire life, you’re probably going to have to get away from them and start hanging around with and studying rich people.

Most people aren’t willing to part with their old selves, though.  They get scared and resort to tricks and techniques to get money.  Some would even rather rob banks or hack into investment companies than take the time to do it right.

Sure, they may make some money doing it this way.  But at what price?  It could all be over any second with a knock at the door.

If they had just spent the time learning how a man of integrity does it (instead of falling for the “get-rich-quick” artists), they would have reaped much greater rewards.

Same with women.  You can’t become amazing with women quickly.  It doesn’t happen that way.  Everything good in life takes time, dedication, and passion.

It all comes down to the same thing, though: Become great yourself.

Stop making excuses.  Stop blaming others.  Take control of your life.

I can help you achieve this, I can help you be this man that naturally attracts beautiful women into you life but you need to me the decision first.  DO YOU REALLY WANT IT?

Accept who you are, where you are, and focus on becoming the best man you can be.  Grab your life by the horns and start taking responsibility for it.

You will be amazed at how being great with women will be just a natural add-on to all this.